She's a small town girl. She's just finished her post graduation. She's tall and has a great figure. She harbours dreams of becoming the next face of Miss India or same famous Indian cosmetic firm. Her 5ft 8in frame is designed for such a career. She's extremely photogenic and knows it. Her features are nothing to write home about but the camera loves her. She's from a conservative family who will not countenance such a career. She's not interested in anything else.
Her mother is a working woman, very successful. More successful than her husband. Her father is suffering from a complex since his wife is so obviously more intelligent and smarter than him. His situation is further compounded by being surrounded by successful brothers. They're all millionaires and while he isn't doing too badly for himself, their over achievement drowns his.
Over the years he has managed to subtly influence his daughter such that she now believes that her mother sacrificed her family for her career. As a result she has decided that she will not work but devote herself to raising her family. She doesn't want her children to suffer the way she did.
She gets married. Despite encouragement from her mother-in-law she chooses not to work. A year later the boy gets an opportunity to work in the US and the girl agrees to the move. She has a rosy view of life in the US. A year later they have a child. When the child is two years old, the girl puts the child in day care. The child spends 7-8 hours a day in daycare while her mother stays at home to catch up with stuff.
She sees her friends out there working full time and wants to try her hand at something. However, she wants to have the freedom to wake up late, work at her own leisure etc. She decides to work from home. This does not consume more than a couple of hours a day, a couple of days a week. By choice.
This is where I have a problem. I know that life in the US is tough without any support structure. Therefore, I can understand putting your child in playschool/daycare for a few hours a day to get some time to yourself - whether to do nothing or to figure out what you want to do with your life. However, I cannot understand a woman who chooses not to work, who is ostensibly a stay at home mom, putting her child into full time day care. What's the point of staying at home if you cannot assume the responsibility of taking care of your child?
I don't understand it and therefore would be grateful if someone out there can explain it to me. All of you moms out there, living your lives in the US, provide some perspective. I'm struggling here. I know this is my take on the situation and is probably biased. So, if you think I've got it wrong, please tell me. I really want to understand.